Family Bonds Broken

January 2014, family being family we have had several fights which end with this one not talking to that one. Several of the the younger members feel that they should automatically get whatever they want no matter what. They feel they can be be rude and disrespectful and because we should be desperate for their company, we will grovel and throw money at them. I simply do not want poison in my life so I am glad they aren't speaking to us much. My husband feels we should be " the bigger people" and I agree until that produces more disrespect in the form of threats to my sister in law from my nephew and the "borrowing" of my husband's things by his son without asking.

I am glad that my husband has changed his approach to his son in light of the property removal. I am diplomatic in not calling it theft, but Junior is notorious for taking people's things and simply not returning them. I think in his mind he feels entitled and there lies the problem. He has been raised to  feel entitled and superior when he definitely is not. His politics are close to White Supremest in nature and that scares me. He hates the "left" which is a lot of people considering how far right he is. Maybe age and wisdom will prevail but because everyone around him chooses to blow smoke up his ass about how wonderful he is, I doubt much change will come.

Narcissism seems to run rampant in today's young adults. They truly believe they are so far superior to the rest of the world. We felt we were invincible as kids but I don't think we had the same level of me me me that this current generation seems to have. They as a group have very limited empathy for anyone else, look down their noses at those less fortunate and have a strong streak of racist, sexist thinking. I feel like we have stepped back to the 50's with an iPhone. The prevailing thought is "my right are more important than yours."

I am happy that my husband is walling himself off emotionally from his family members that are so hateful, and I choose to use this forum to vent rather than fight every day with him about it. The theft was the last straw for him and I see the pain in his eyes. He wanted to bond with his son after so many years apart but for his son, it is far more important to know it all rather than learn from his dad.. Junior's insecurities lead him down a path of bravado, bullying and hypocracy about most issues.  Sad just sad.....